How To Forgive Your Ex and Set Yourself Free

When one is in love , life seems so beautiful. Love is perhaps most satisfying emotion which feels oneself with happiness , care. But same love if unsuccessful leads to hearbreak , loss of self belief , at times hatred and revenge too.

Forgiving and getting over is not easy. Being betrayed or rejected in love is hard thing to digest and this make forgiving very very difficult. Even name of person whom we once loved makes us restless.Isn't it?

But forgiving is important not for them but for us. Forgiving leads to freeing ourselves from past. Forgiving leads to achieve inner peace and forgiving leads to begin one's life once again.

Forgive and let go. Forgive and move ahead. Forgive and start living once again.

But question is how?. No matter how much one tries , its difficult to forget and forgive. Memories comes back and haunts . Sleepless night , search for escapism becomes part of life.

Here are few steps that helped me and it might be useful to all readers too :

1) First step is stop running and escaping. You are human being and not a computer hard disk. You can't shift-delete at will. Accept how you feel is first step.

I tried to escape how i felt by using alcohol and worst part of it was that it developed into habit. One fine day I realized what I was doing to myself and took help from friends to come to terms with how I felt.

2) Socialize :

Getting betrayed or rejected in love takes toll on self esteem. Person tries to be in his/her coccon or seeks company which can re inforce self pity. Dont do that. Dress nicely and socialize. Seek positive people and be in their company. Initially you might feel running away . Don't do that . Keep mingling.

3) Do What You Love :

Develop a hobby . How about joining dance class or taking lesson on guitar?. How about taking camera and doing some photography?. Spend times in such things which makes you happy

4) After sometime analyze your case once again

Time is best healer. Once you do 1,2,3 steps slowly you would start getting along with your life. But you are still not free. Once you are comfortable with yourself revisit your case. Now you won't be that much hurt as you were betrayed or let down by your lover.

Shortlist positives from the relationship . Think from point of view of your lover. If you feel that your lover was selfish , opportunist , thank god that he/she left you. He/she is human being and motivated by what he/she thinks is important for her/him. So thank god and wish them well. Don't worry initially you might not feel wishing them well but still do it. Slowly you would start wishing them well from bottom of heart and that would ease yourself.

If you feel that it was your fault that your lover left you , again thank god to have given you wisdom to accept that. Wish them well and vow to improve yourself.

Use power of gratitude towards nature , god to help you forgive your ex lover.

Why Forgiving Is Important ?

Forgiving is important not only for your ex but also for yourself. It frees you and your brain from being captive of your past. Once you forgive , you feel better and get over with your past. It makes one sleep well , have positive frame of mind not only consiously but subconsiously too.