When Nri Marriage Becomes Nightmare For Woman

The following in true story of a family friend , whose name has been changed to protect her identity. The reason of writing this post is to spread her story to maximum people so that more and more people get aware about this NRI Marriage Euphoria and necessary precautions are taken to have a safe marriage.

The case goes as follows :

Sulekha was down to earth , nice , educated girl belonging to middle class family. She had a financially struggling child hood and had started to work right from her college days. She has two elder sister and one younger brother.Her eldest sister had good job which had some what stabilized her family. Sulekha's dad was doing odd jobs and the thing which he did right was educating all four children. With time her both elder sisters got married and settled down.

Now the responsibility of running the household was on sulekha and her younger brother , who was struggling to meet ends.

By the time her younger brother has reasonable job , sulekha was already 28 years of age. She registered in a online matrimonial website. She started getting responses and finally she started chatting with few people. She was specially interested in a USA citizen , Mr Digvijay (name change). Digvijay was well settled man of 32 year age. He was never married and wanted a house wife. He lived with his mother , father in usa. Chatting continued and finally both got married. When digvijay came to India , he looked to be a caring , mature and responsible person.

After marriage he went back and called sulekha after some time. Things looked pretty settled for sulekha. But it was not to be. Once sulekha reached usa , digvijay took away her passport. He never gave her single paisa , he never took her out , she was not allowed to talk to her parents in India. Phone was kept locked , she didnt knew anyone in usa and she was not allowed to go out too. She was prisoner is the country who is symbol of freedom!!!!!!!!!!!. The dream of having a great life was shattered and she was pregnant. Sulekha was not ready for this. She was mentally broke and she had no one to confide too. Finally time for delivery came and she gave birth to girl child. The real shocker came now for sulekha. The purpose of digvijay to marry was just a child!!!!!!!!!. He wanted a child and nothing else. She was after one month of delivery sent back to India!!!!!!! Her life got shattered. Though with time she is trying to get back to life but its tough. Digvijay has filed divorce and she has signed too. A girl used a mere tool for getting child..

A sad story. Since she didnt take photo copy of passport , she didnt have any money and her blind trust in her husband made her slave of digvijay who used her only for birth of child. In our country , anything to do with NRI is considered to be great. NRI is symbol of well settled person who has got money , who can give better life to his wife and offsprings. So most of girl's parents are excited to have son-in-law who is NRI. There is nothing wrong in girl parent's desiring such alliance. But what girl parents must do is take all precautionary measures before they marry an NRI. These are steps which they must take care of :

1) Get Proper Information About the groom
2) Get Proper Information About his occupation
3) Get facts checked by some one you know in foreign country

4) Get things checked from his indian linkages Women going as wives/fiancees to USA should

* Participate in the community. Visit the library, explore the neighbourhood
* Keep phone numbers of your home, husband's workplace, family in the USA, doctor, nearest hospital/temple/mosque/church/Indian consulate or embassy
* Keep a photocopy of passport, green card/ visa, and driver's licence
* Take driving lessons and get a licence. The identity card from the Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV)will be proof for address and age
* Take classes to acquire professional skills
* Learn the finances/how to operate a bank account
* Keep photos, invites, and videos as proof of marriage

* If you are being abused, tell your family, tell a friend or a neighbour, ask for help Also for help one may contact following NGOS placed in usa

Call on: Narika: 1-800-215-7308, Maitri: 1-888-862-4874

Narika, P.O. Box 14014, Berkeley, CA 94712. Tel: 510-540-0754. Fax: 510-540-0201. Email: services@narika.org Website: www.narika.org

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